Mind Who You Date For Marriage Because Of Reputation!

Mind Who You Date For Marriage Because Of Reputation.


I would like to begin by sharing the experience of a very personal person to me, though it is without permission but since it is to guide somebody from making a mistake, am so sure she wouldn’t mind.

There was this pastor she was dating (we all know this enthusiasm behind marrying a pastor that people have, they believe their spiritual life in the marriage is secured since they are in it with a man of God, lol) maybe and maybe not but this person of mine happen to have been engaged to a pastor…she herself had a strong relationship with God and so could receive revelations but watch it, there is more to it, she spoke to God about her desire to get married to him, Lo and behold she was instructed not to go ahead with it as the pastor had a background/ family history with serious generational issues. She had some other ministers pray along with her in an attempt to intercede on the issue but the strong warning stood. Am not going to give more details on that other than the engagement had to be broken as instructed.

This experience above is one mistake people ignorantly make when deciding who to marry, you should never marry nor get into a relationship because of what people say or because you think this person can stand for you spiritually. What am simply driving at here is that we shouldn’t because of ‘thoughts’ do things that can end grievously as getting married; forever hooked with the wrong person. There are always consequences when you decide to neglect God or His instructions or not make Him a key consultant to the foundation of any proceedings you want to embark on.


Dating somebody because this person is financially great is also another mistake people make in choosing a relationship partner especially women.You think this person can provide all and sundry for you? Hey don’t get me wrong, I do not and will not encourage that you get married to a someone with no potentials nor ambition, but you solely basing your criteria of an eligible partner on his/her financial status is wrong and terrible!. What if there is a crisis along the line in the marriage or even in the relationship, what then becomes of the marriage or should we say the ‘supposed love’ you claim to have?!. Because this person has societal standings/ reputation, you think its cool enough to get involved with this person? You just may get hell out of it…there may never even be time for you in this relationship by the person!.


This person is known to be the most attractive in the area and you think that’s good enough reason to get together? My dear, the beauty would fade off someday, there could be a disaster that could cripple this person of the “attribute”… What then happens?. I know peeps who have vowed never to get involved with pretty guys because of what they feel/ have heard could go down with it such as the guys messing around, insecurities issues and jealousy from lousy onlookers and the likes. Well, am one big fan of pretty faces, so their allegations may be true but I wouldn’t buy it, still I wouldn’t concur to making the ‘pretty face’ the focus to getting my eligible man. All things being equal, he just may be as pretty as I would want #winking.

In all I say, Choose right…have the logical but still standard criteria for getting the right person. Don’t be greedy but Don’t be stupid…Cheers!.


10 Comments Add yours

  1. Adeola says:

    This piece is thoughtful, however there is more to marriage than just getting married with someone on the surface.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. horptie says:

      exactly my point…Thank you!


  2. Akinlolu Olasanmi says:

    Wow…….nice one…..I your inspiration towards your writing amazes me….I am sure this will help someone out there…cos some pastors are wolves in sheep skin. If you are not conviced by God to go ahead, you will surely get burnt. Keep it up.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. horptie says:

      I appreciate that! Oh yes, may the good Lord continually guide us all…I hope it helps someone indeed.


  3. Jide Taiwo says:

    Sure wat happens many times. Will be a guide to many

    Liked by 1 person

    1. horptie says:

      I believe so…Thank you!


  4. David says:

    Thanks for this…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. horptie says:

      you are very welcome David


  5. Ozioma Paul says:

    Thanks for sharing…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. horptie says:

      You’re welcome ☺


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